An original is always better than a copy.

I've been spending some time with my favorite friends and it's always such a pleasure to be around them. What always strikes me about my pals is how "weird" they are. They don't follow the norms... instead they gallop through life as complete originals and have the fantastic ability to never worry about what anyone else's thinks of them. They are originals, not copies.

Is it brave to be who you truly are? Yes.

Australian palliative nurse Bronnie Ware has spent many hours with people in their final days. She's written a book about the top five wishes of the dying. There were many wishes you might expect: 

  • I wish I'd spent more time with my friends
  • I wish I hadn't worked so hard
  • I wish I had the courage to express my feelings
  • I wish I had let myself be happier

But the #1 regret of the dying was:

  • I wish I'd had the courage to live my life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. 

Anyone who has spent time visiting this website or any of my friends who I've known throughout my life know that I insist on being "Tim Tam". I'm adamant about it. The risks of not being "me" far outweigh the risks of being what others think I should be. I challenge those who push back. I'm not afraid to stand up for what I believe in... for me. I'm an original not a copy. I'm a different.

You're a different too so be exactly who you are... no regrets. Need some rough directions on how to do that? Here are three suggestions for living a life you'll never regret in your dying days:

  1. Always have adventures you're working on. My adventures are travel, experiences, food, experiments, thinking up ideas that will add to the greater good of my community, new friends and learning from my dog. Your adventures will be different so fill your boots.
  2. Lead by being positive. Never let negativity take the lead EVER. Everyone is faced with negative people and situations in their life. It's my intention to NEVER allow negative people or experiences control any of my situations. Always challenge negativity by asking the simple question, "Why does it have to be like this?" and challenge every negative to become positive right there on the spot.
  3. There is no "perfect" so don't expect perfection. Stop worrying about what others are going to think of you. People care less about what you're wearing, who designed your jacket or how expensive your car is. If you want to wear two different shoes everyday to work because it makes you feel good, then go for it. There again if you want to drive that expensive sports car because it makes you feel good then go for it. Do things that make you as happy as you need to be for you... but never for anyone else. 

Muster up the courage to be exactly who you are, not a copy. It will be the bravest thing you'll ever do and when you're at the end of your spectacular life you'll have no regrets.


Tim Tamashiro